Women want confidence, not shyness

Shy men are seen as lacking self confidence, which essentially they do. They are insecure, seldom make the first move and are not spontaneous. Display a lack of initiative when it comes to meeting women. Women like it when guys can approach us first and be open about stuff. They want to get to know you & if you are shy, there’s no way they can.There’s nothing wrong with being shy but you have to open a bit more.

Women are attracted to men with self-confidence, period. A man who can man-handle her and take charge. Every woman wants to feel secure, be defended and protected, and chances are that a shy man will be hesitant to take control of any uncompromising situation. Shy guys might likely wait for sign to make some action. A woman wants a man that they know they can rely on, who will stand up for her and also would like someone who can lead, take initiative and has firm decisions. A real man.

This is also the reason why it’s common that women like bad boys. Guys who has sense of masculinity. It’s because bad boys have the confidence to admit their feelings towards women without fear of being rejected or so. After all, confidence is all that it really takes. If you get rejected, get over it and move forward.

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A common scenario. Whether your girl or a boy, this happens. There’s this someone that you like but he/she likes someone else.

Paano ba yan?

• Yung type mo, iba naman ang type.
• Si crush may ibang crush.
• Yung mahal mo may ibang mahal.

Ang saklap di ba? It’s over na ba talaga? Yun na ba talaga yun? Kung OA ka pang isip, sasabihin mo na parang nagunaw na ang mundo. Magpapakaemote ka. Iisipin mo na “bakit sya pa? Bakit hindi na lang ako? Sana tayo na lang. Anong meron sya na wala ako? Sana ako na lang.“  Kahit na may iba syang gusto, gusto mo pa din sya kasi hindi naman agad agad mawawala yun dahil lang may gusto na syang iba di ba? Syempre may konti pa rin pag-asa ang natitira sayo. Yung Baka sakali. Pwede din namang ibang method, yung agawin mo sya pero depende kung mag papaagaw sya. (tsaka wag yun. bad kaya yun) Pero kung walang wala na. Kung wala na talagang chance, hanap ka na lang ng iba o maghintay ka na lang ng iba. Ang dami pa dyan. Sa ngayon yan, paniwalain mo muna ang sarili mo. Get over it! Ang daling sabihin no? Pero dapat magawa din.

Hay buhay! Ganyan talaga. Kung sinong gusto mo syang ayaw sayo. Hindi lahat ng magugustuhan mo ay magugustuhan ka din at hindi lahat ng magkakagusto sayo ay yung magugustuhan mo din. Hindi naman lahat ng gusto mo makukuha mo. Hindi lahat ng mangyayari ay sasangayon sayo. Kasi hindi ganun kasimple ang buhay.  May mga bagay lang talagang hindi para sayo. Kaya dapat matuto kang tanggapin yun. Dadating din naman yung time na dadating yung talagang para sayo. Yung hindi mo kailangang mangagaw o ipilit pa.

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Yung minsan may pagkakataon na magsasabi sayo na “Uy, crush ka nun.” “May gusto sayo si ganto.” Yung bigla bigla na lang na ganun. Pero hindi mo paniniwalaan kasi baka nanloloko lang yun o nantitrip lang. Kasi naman di ba, asus! bakit naman siya mag kakacrush sakin? Ano naman nakita? Parang ewan lang. Shunga lang. Hindi tayo basta basta maniniwala. Maiisip natin o masasabi natin na nagjojoke lang yun. Kalokohan. Ano namang naisip nun? Isang malaking question mark. Yung wala ka naman kaalamalam, wala din naman hints o clue galing doon sa tao. Yung walang wala talagang kahit ano. Kaya parang hindi naman. Ganun yung mga pwedeng maiisip natin lalo na doon sa taong hindi natin talagang inaasahan. Hindi naman dahil wala kang bilib sa sarili mo pero kasi mahirap maniwala agad agad. Out of the blue naman. Pero wala ka din naman magagawa dun. Tsaka ayaw mo nang gawing big deal yun, pwera na lang kung crush mo din yung may crush sayo, edi okay. Pero kung hindi, dedma na lang. Hayaan na lang.

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Women hate mind games

That’s right. Women hate mind games and mixed signals. Why can’t people just tell me straight up how they feel about you? Women hate guessing how you feel for her in the same way that we hate guessing what she feels. They’ll go crazy not knowing what your real intention is and they don’t even know what exactly are you thinking. They would want to know what’s going on inside your head. You can give all the hints that you like her but this will be of no use unless you tell her exactly how you really feel.

They don’t like mixed signals, mixed gestures of whether you like her or not. Like just moment ago you act you’re interested then later you act like you don’t. You can’t just do everything that you want and leave women hanging. Women are not toys to be played and for guys past time. Mixed signals can be confusing and frustrating. Mixed signals can only mean that you’re not the only option. It’s either you like her or you don’t. It’s only you who could give her the answer so better tell her how you feel before she loses interest in you. If you like her tell her and prove it. But if you don’t stop playing with her feelings. Stop all the mixed signals and mind games.

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Slowly, I’m building an invisible wall around my heart. No, I won’t let anyone in. I won’t let anyone in again. Though, I’m not sure if I still have a heart. —

She won’t let herself be attached to people anymore who will just come and go. She won’t chase after anyone. If you want to walk out of her life, She’ll be more than happy to hold the door wide open for you. Getting attached too easily and holding on for too long, that’s the problem. She don’t like opening up to people and can’t even express her feelings. Hiding behind fake smile. She won’t let people have the satisfaction to hurt me anymore. She won’t be vulnerable in front of other people and never to let them see her week side. Been there, done that. If she need to distance herself, She will because it’s the only thing that she know how to do. It’s not because she doesn’t want anyone in her life. She’s just protecting herself. She just doesn’t want to get hurt again, be left out and leave her hanging. She doesn’t want to feel miserable. She doesn’t know if I can get through it again.

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Baka sakali…

• Baka sakaling maging maayos ang lahat
• Baka sakaling may patunguhan
• Baka sakaling sumaya na ako
• Baka sakaling ito na yung hinihintay ko
• BAKA SAKALING MA IN LOVE KA SA AKIN.

Sa buhay madami tayong ipinagbabakasakali. Pwedeng sa pang simpleng pang araw araw lang, sa pag aaral, trabaho, pamilya at syempre sa pag-ibig. We take chances. We take the risk. Hindi man natin alam ang kahihinatnan. Gagawin pa din natin ang isang bagay. Susubok pa din tayo. Bakit? Kasi baka sakali… Walang tamang panahon kung kailan ka susugal, basta naramdaman mong handa ka na yun na yun. Handa ka nang magmahal. Umaasa tayo na magiging maganda ang kahihinatnan. Susugal tayo sa mga bagay na walang kasiguraduhan at hindi natin alam ang mga maaring mangyari.

Basta pag sumugal tayo handa ka dapat sa kung ano man ang kalalabasan. Matapang ang mga sumugal kasi hindi sila nagpadala sa takot. Sa pagsugal mo pwedeng manalo ka, pwede rin naman na matalo. Maswerte pag nakakuha ka ng higit pa sa inaasahan mo, luhaan naman at pagkabigo para sa mga natalo. Pero kahit ganun pa man, walang kasiguraduhan, marami pa din ang sumusugal at nagmamahal kasi nga naman. Baka sakali… Baka sakali…

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Okay lang naman maging torpe.

Paminsan, minsan. Wag lang yung sobra naman. Hindi naman masamang mag ipon muna ng lakas ng loob.  Kaya lang wag naman sana puro katorpehan na lang,  wag naman sana magpakatorpe ng sobrang tagal. Paano nya mapapatunayan yung nararamdaman nya, kung wala naman syang gagawin. Baka kasi maunahan pa sya ng iba. Paano na lang kapag nahuli na sya?  You’ll never know. Tsaka anong malay niya, baka hinihintay lang din siya nung babae. Edi naghintayan lang sila. Walang nangyari. Sayang lang. Baka kung kailan handa ka na, kung kailan gust mo namang ipakita at iparamdman ang pagmamahal mo, tsaka pa mawawalan ng pagkakataon. May naunang iba. Hindi nya agad gin-grab yung oppurtunity. Sa huli magsisi lang sya dahil hindi sya nag take ng risk. Panghihinayang yun yun.

Okay lang magpakatorpe pero sana naman matuto rin syang umamin. Pero dapat bago ka umamin o mag make ng move dapat sigurado ka sa nararamdaman at gagawin mo. Dapat kaya mong panindigan ang kung ano mang masisimulan mo. Hindi yung sa umpisa ka lang magaling. Hindi din naman kasi maganda yung magiging padalos dalos ka. Dapat sigurado ka. Wag mong hayaan na puro katorpehan ang paiiralin. Kung ayaw mong laging maunahan o pwede rin tumanda mag isa at puro panghihinayang.

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What’s the difference between crush, attraction and love, really?

Kung crush mo langa ng isang tao, maaring attracted ka lang sa pisikal na characteristics kahit di mo pa siya gaanong kilala. Kung attraction or infatuation, attracted ka sa positibong pisikal at positibong attitude nung tao. Kung love mo naman, kilalang kilala mo na attracted ka sa parehong positibo at negatibong characteristics at attitude ng tao. Alam mong may mga negatibong sides siya, pero mahal mo siya at sapat na dahilan na yun para tanggapin ang buong pagkatao niya.  ― Teen Clash

Ang crush, biglaan lang. Yung may nakita ka lang sa kanya kaya naging attracted ka. Pwedeng dahil sa ugali pero mas madalas talaga dahil sa hitsura kaya nagiging crush mo ang isang tao.Crush, yung taong kinatutuwaan natin. Yung parang ang cute lang.

Ang attraction or infatuation panandalian lang yan. Pwedeng ilang months, ganun. Kasi ang nagustuhan mo lang naman talaga sa kanya ay ang mga positibong characteristics nung tao kaya pag nakita mo yung mga hindi nya magandang katangian parang mawawalan ka na ng gana. Hindi mo na feel. Hindi mo kasi tanggap ang negatibong characteristics nya at puro positibo lang ang pinansin mo at nagustuhan mo sa kanya.

Pag love naman, it’s permanent. Yung malalim na yung nararamdaman mo.  Hindi ito basta basta nawawala ng dahil sa simpleng rason lang. Pag mahal mo, mahal mo. Walang pero pero. Tanggap mo saya sa kung ano sya, either positive or negative.

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How i wish guys in reality could be like guys from wattpad stories.

Or like guys from movies or Korean dramas. How i wish na totoo yung mga lalaking nasa stories, na nag eexist talaga sila. Na meron talagang ganung lalaki. Kahit hindi perpekto, basta totoo. Totoo sa nararamdaman nya, sa mga sinasabi at ginagawa nya.

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Someone who cares for you. Someone who wants to be with you. Someone who values your time. Spends time with you. Someone who you can trust and trust you in return. Someone who can make you feel and show you how much you are loved. Someone who will always be there for you no matter what. Someone who wouldn’t take you for granted and knows how important you are. Someone who would value your feelings and your opinions. Not someone you would just disregard you. Not someone who would just talk to you whenever they like. Someone who understands you and accepts your flaws and mistakes. Someone loves you like no other, will be there for you forever, no matter what. Someone who will fight for you, will be there through it all wouldn’t leave you.

“Life is short, so you shouldn’t waste it on someone who doesn’t understand you, refuses to try and get you, won’t put in the time for you, who is rude to you, your friends or to other people and doesn’t even call you. Details are important, but if the world ends this year, it’ll be more important to say you wasted the time you have left with someone who cares.” ―

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